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koalalady

:: 2016 24 December :: 9.21am

Merry Christmas
Spending Christmas in Raleigh with G and R, then heading down to Orlando/Fort Myers until after the New Year.

I am going to stay. I am going to trust. I've spent enough time worrying, figuring things out. I don't regret any of it. Not one minute. If I could do it all over again, I would do it all the exact same way. Mistakes included. My destiny, my choice.

Nothing is written.

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spud

:: 2016 28 November :: 1.51pm

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koalalady

:: 2016 9 November :: 12.33am

YOU HAVE GOT TO BE SHITTING ME.

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spud

:: 2016 5 November :: 12.49am
:: Mood: whoa, dude...
:: Music: the wallflowers

since last we met
yo. i'm still here.



I suppose a lot has happened in 2016 up to this point, and I should probably catch you up.

I didn't wind up getting that house. I did wind up getting out of my parents' basement. I was very fortunate to find an awesome roommate on craigslist. She owns her own home, and I rent the back bedroom. The price is right. We have fun. We eat food and watch tv and shit. I got super lucky to find this place, and appreciate that I get to live here. I didn't realize how much it bothered me living at dad's until I got out and felt this immense weight lifted off of my chest. That's not to say it's always sunshine and rainbows and shit here... but it's a lot better. I'm much more relaxed. More comfortable being myself. It took a few months being here to allow myself to ease into it. It's a good fit, for right now. It won't be forever, but it's nice to not be in a hurry to go anywhere. And she's not in a hurry to get me out of here, which is also nice.



I'm still single. Cold and alone, forever probably maybe. I still vascillate rapidly between deeply longing to be in a relationship and realizing that bachelorhood and freedom is actually pretty fucking rad. I mostly just want something warm to cuddle with. Maybe I should get a dog. I did do the 20-10-5 thing.

*spends half an hour looking for it*

... and now I can't remember what I did with it. I may have thrown it out. the big takeaway I can recall from it is that I'm shallower than I'd like to believe. I wanted to think that a sense of humor or intellectual stimulation would be the most important - and they were important, they definitely made the list of 20 (it was actually really hard to think of 20 things without being redundant) - but if you boil it down ... i have to be attracted to the person physically. have to. don't much care if anyone else thinks they're hot, but I damn well better think so. Otherwise there's no point to the rest of it. I wanted to think that I'm above all that physical superficiality, but apparently i'm not.

i have a "new" (year-old) lunchbag. it is gigantic and awesome. kathy got it for me. after all that bitching i did about her, she buys the best gifts. and i am an asshole. but the zipper works great

I still don't eat very healthy or exercise much. however i recently quit smoking tobacco. it's only been 11 days, so it's still a little premature to call it quits for good, officially, but this is the longest stretch of time i've gone without nicotine in my bloodstream in 10 years. it's kind of a big deal.

also, i bought myself a drum set:




I've been banging on that thing quite a bit lately.

like - all the freaking time. which is awesome.

i also built a drum. it's purdy:







It's at dad's house. I gave it to him because i wasn't crazy about how it sounded, and he didn't have a wood snare. he likes it, so i'm glad it worked out and found a good home. i probably would've warmed up to it over time. it didn't sound bad ... just not how i expected/hoped.

prior to that, i built a bookshelf and a nightstand for my bedroom. they turned out well. oak plywood is fucking expensive as balls. but it looks nice, and is rock solid. glued and screwed together. sanded and polyurethaned. should last a good long while. not perfect, but suitable for my needs.




I did wind up getting that 'promotion' at work. so now i have my own office, a company phone, and a slight (very slight) pay increase. it's a lot more responsibility - i'm running quality control for our entire plant - but it's not terrible all the time. i show up, do stuff, go home, and at the end of the week they deposit money in my bank account. it's a thing.

the basement audio lab has been put on hiatus for the time being. the other guys got busy with life and work and stuff and were unable to commit the time and energy they felt was necessary to continue the project. i can respect that they didn't want to half-ass it. and if things slow down, we'll pick it back up again.

in the meantime, i'm starting on a new project with different people. we will see what happens, but at least i'm still playing. there wasn't even that much down time, and i didn't have to go out looking for something, it came to me. so hopefully that's an indication that i'm supposed to be doing it. we don't have anything online yet.

Here's where the basement audio lab left off, if you'd like to hear what things sounded like right before we hit pause:

RIGHT CLICK - OPEN IN NEW TAB MOTHERFUCKER

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koalalady

:: 2016 24 October :: 4.51pm

We have got to get creative here, folks.

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koalalady

:: 2016 13 September :: 9.28am

Anyone can whistle
That's what they say, easy

Anyone can whistle
Any old day, easy

It's all so simple
Relax, let go, let fly!
So someone tell me,
Why can't I?

I can dance a tango
I can read Greek, easy

I can slay a dragon
Any old week, easy

What's hard is simple
What's natural comes hard

Maybe you could show me
How to let go
Lower my guard
Learn to be free

Maybe if you whistle
Whistle for me

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koalalady

:: 2016 27 August :: 3.11pm

"...Goodness gracious, my generation's lost
They burned down all our bridges
Before we had a chance to cross
Is it the winter of our discontent or just an early frost?

"Goodness gracious, of apathy I sing
The baby boomers had it all and wasted everything
Now recess is almost over and they won't get off the swing

"Goodness gracious, we came in at the end
No sex that isn't dangerous, no money left to spend
We're the cleanup crew for parties we were too young to attend
Goodness gracious me, goodness gracious me

"'Goodness gracious,' my grandma used to say
The world's a scary place now, things were different in her day
What horrors will be commonplace when my hair starts to gray?"

-- Kevin Gilbert

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skife

:: 2016 22 August :: 5.33pm

I don't feel like adulting today.

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koalalady

:: 2016 19 August :: 1.27pm
:: Mood: free
:: Music: Boys playing DotA

Sipping fresh coconut water from a coconut that we just broke open.

After yoga this morning, I came home and burned everything from my journals that I don't want lying around. I just didn't need some of it anymore.

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koalalady

:: 2016 16 August :: 10.48am

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koalalady

:: 2016 15 August :: 10.16am

why is it so hard to accept

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koalalady

:: 2016 7 August :: 7.41am

My game = desperately trying to be OK with something that I have a gut reaction, fundamental problem with. Yayy koalalady, overriding instincts since c. 2011.

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koalalady

:: 2016 16 July :: 8.36pm

There's one good thing you can always say about Michigan: we know how to brew a damn beer.

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koalalady

:: 2016 9 July :: 12.11pm
:: Mood: conflicted
:: Music: Moby

Changes
Something is always going to be "wrong." Life is never going to be perfect, and it's certainly not going to be the perfect vision you see in your head. Like trying to find the Pleiades in the night sky. It gets blurred and faded when you look at it straight on, but you can see them more clearly in peripheral vision. Same with getting what you want, attaining the object of passion.

This is not the end of us, not yet. I will stay for another year, and just let the good things that are happening, happen.

And if I do need to leave, like go exploring or disappear or blow everything up again, he supports this. Like really actually fucking wants me to do what is best for me. Even if that's leaving (hopefully not permanently...I don't need to be totally untethered. Just enough to figure shit out on my own and be my own person.).

You'll never know how perfect it is until you see it from the outside.

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koalalady

:: 2016 6 July :: 11.51am

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koalalady

:: 2016 5 July :: 8.41am
:: Mood: rejuvenated
:: Music: Vallis Alps

back in black
We traveled home from NC all day yesterday. Made it home safely; it was something like a 10-hour drive, and thankfully we didn't hit much holiday traffic and managed to outride the storms in WV.

I love my city. Sitting on the balcony last night, I could see six or seven different fireworks sets going on all around, one that was pretty close to our building. I always wanted to live in a place with a view for stuff like that. I never dreamed I'd end up here, but like I said...the perspective is good. And I'm so lucky to have S, who supports literally everything I do or want to try. In fact, just leaving everything, all of this, would be more all-or-nothing thinking...it is possible to have your cake and eat it too in this 21st century world. And I'm giving myself permission to just live, damnit.

I used to think that I needed to play my cards just right in order to get what I wanted. Like you only get one deal, and that's it. And yeah, I took a small buyout. Mitigating my chances. I'm not a gambler, and I don't like to play hardball.

"If you don't like what they're saying, change the conversation."

And now I'm ready to try again. Let's give this another go.

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koalalady

:: 2016 3 July :: 2.13pm
:: Mood: excited
:: Music: The Magnetic Fields

A breath of clarity
People will treat you the way you expect to be treated. If you want to change the way the world looks at you, start from the inside and work your way out.

So change is good, but I've been taking change in giant leaps...trying to make my goals too big, make big changes all at once...basically doing the very things that I advocate are harmful to others from a social change standpoint. I actually feel pretty relieved about this...I'm not a total failure, I'm just an overachiever at heart. Undoing perfectionism is real, challenging work.

So, my plan when I get back home to Columbus:

1) Get new glasses
2) Purge all my unneeded/unwanted shit
3) Redesign my bedroom

Life is too short to keep carrying things that are too heavy for me, or that I don't want hanging around anymore. I'm already OK with all of this.

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koalalady

:: 2016 2 July :: 11.19am
:: Mood: loved
:: Music: Vallis Alps

So far, so good
Currently at work, but my old layout was driving me nuts. This is a test.

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koalalady

:: 2016 12 June :: 10.53am
:: Music: The Magnetic Fields

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koalalady

:: 2016 11 June :: 7.39pm

Riddle
Do you ever fuck up, in the midst of someone else's fuck-up, and their fuck-up is bigger than yours, but you still fucked up, so it's like, 'Fuck, do I still get to be upset about the original fuck-up? Or did I just fuck everything up irrevocably, even though the other fuck-up was bigger?'

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koalalady

:: 2016 23 April :: 2.08pm

Peace before us, peace behind us, peace under our feet.
Peace within us, peace over us, let all around us be peace.
- David Haas

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rayray

:: 2016 22 April :: 12.14pm

Today marks one month since the accident. I am finally feeling relief after going to the chiropractor. I am still recovering though. Occasionally I have brain fog, or things get fuzzy and I have a hard time focusing. Everyday I am even more grateful that my baby was unharmed in the accident. Last week was the first time that she had even asked questions about the accident. I knew it was going to happen, and I didn't press her after the accident because I was waiting for her to be ready. After the accident she asked what happened one time. And it was literally the first thing out of her mouth after we stopped. From that point on, all she would say was "I hate that lady's car for hitting us. She's a bad driver. I hate her driving". I would always reassure her that the only thing that mattered was that we were okay. I have been trying hard to not harbor anger over the whole ordeal. I am pissed that she wrecked my car. I am pissed that I am still recovering. But the fact that even after all that, my child is okay, makes me not want to hang onto those feelings of anger or hatred. Reagan could have been killed, or severely injured. She could have had cuts ALL over her body from all the glass. She could have been covered in glass, but for some reason she wasn't.

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koalalady

:: 2016 21 April :: 2.01pm
:: Mood: capricious

4/20 was yesterday; did anyone get blazed????
...Do they even call it that anymore?

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spud

:: 2016 22 February :: 9.50pm

ancestry.com
"What kind of white are you?"

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tabletop

:: 2016 3 February :: 7.36am

One of my favorite things
So I was listening to The Streets of Cairo on youtube (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=npQUK_OJONA), and I go to read the comments and I spot a bunch of people complaining about Ke$ha and some kpop ladies for ripping off the tune for their songs. Which is hilarious to me as The Streets of Cairo was an off the cuff ripoff of an older french song "Colin Prend Sa Hotte" which is a ripoff of an almost ancient algerian song.

It's almost as good as people complaining about Metallica ripping off Thin Lizzy or the Dubliners for Whiskey in the Jar, which has been sung in Ireland in one version or another since before the US was a country.

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koalalady

:: 2016 2 February :: 10.35am

Something with a little bounce in it.
Yes, I drink expensive coffee and burn candles. Because I'm in control of my life; life doesn't control me.

I'm honest and kind, and I always give our customers the benefit of the doubt, because most of them are honest and kind, too. I love, love, love having the power to solve problems and make someone's day better. And I do it all from my phone and computer. I don't even have to wear pants.

I don't have to second-guess myself because I make good decisions and deal with the consequences. Yesterday I accomplished every single thing on my to-do list, even things that were hanging around from months and months--even a year!--ago. If you can give one gift to yourself this week, take a day, take your day off, to make a list of all the things you know you need to get done but are putting off. Do them all. Sleep well.

Kiss my ass, 2016; I just made mince meat of 2015, and you're next.

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koalalady

:: 2016 28 January :: 9.49am

Unretractable
I needed a change of scene this week. The old thoughts were hanging around, and I needed to get out. So I drove across the city and took myself out for a big-ass sushi working lunch. It was really effective.

Much of my work involves solving problems with creative ideas. I love being able to step back from the minute-to-minute, the hour-to-hour rhythm and feel the needs of the people I'm helping, to imagine a solution that will actually work this time. My work is getting better, but does it apply? It's less sloppy, esp. emotionally, but would it matter?

I love this city, Columbus. My head is clearer out here. Everyone sucks at driving in Ohio, but there's less snow. It's warmer; people are less disparaging. Kind of like the Portland of the Midwest in a way, I think.

I played my cards exactly right. This is what I needed to do to get out of those patterns. I've embraced my faults, and I have no regrets. I'm sorry about the people I hurt, but it all happened by default. Not that my choices were inevitable. I just did what I needed to do. I'm still pretty allergic to distance relationships, but I know why, and that's all that matters. And it's not really the big deep wound that I always thought; although the scars have their place, I can work around them now.

I...just need to be where my feet are. That's probably the most authentic statement you'll hear from me.

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koalalady

:: 2016 19 January :: 5.37pm
:: Mood: quizzical

thought
Sometimes I get the unshakeable sense that I'm overthinking the entire human experience.

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koalalady

:: 2016 19 January :: 11.40am
:: Mood: hopeful
:: Music: Enigma

Progress
So I'm auditioning for an alternative rock band tonight. I emailed this dude who put an ad up on Craigslist, and he hit me back within the hour. I'm showing up at their band practice tonight at 7 with my Yamaha.

I've been practicing, and my voice is actually starting to come back, so tonight might not be horrible. I took it slow through Op. 79 last night, both hands separately. Just getting the notes even, attacking boldly. I tired quickly, but I could tell I'm getting stronger with all the Hanon exercises.

There's a small start-up church who is looking for someone to do exactly what I've been doing for the last three years, just one leader, doing stuff from Rend Collective, Hillsong, etc. It pays, only 4 hours a week, and I can't do it for less than $25/hour. (Anything less would be a pay cut from my last job.) Well, actually, I'd probably do it for less. Need to start experimenting with leadership skills. Need to start getting better. Not because I want to lead a mega-church, but because I want to connect with people. To make them feel something. Invite them into the experience.

At any rate. One step at a time. I think I wanna check them out on Sunday.

I need a djembe.

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tabletop

:: 2016 15 January :: 2.06am

this was gonna be a fb status but I was worried people would think I was more than 30% serious
What the fuck am I supposed to do about this amber alert from five counties away? I'd have already called the cops if I saw someone that dark skinned in my neighborhood this time of night, I don't need an amber alert.

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