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:: 2004 18 February :: 1.35 am

P.S
Im leaving.
Somewhere, SOON.
I hope

P.P.S why do I keep saying fuck in my head?
not "fuck in my head" but. "FUCCCCCCCCCCCK!!!" in my head.

Probably because I lost EVERY THING i had on my computer tonight. I guess i had to realize id lose the things that matter at some point. not my computer..just the past i suppose. pictures and old papers wrote..way back when, when i could actually think clearly

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:: 2004 18 February :: 1.34 am
:: Mood: tired
:: Music: online radio

I HATE MY COMPUTER!

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:: 2004 2 February :: 11.22 pm
:: Mood: cynical
:: Music: 11 o clock news

i hope the view from heaven beets the hell out of mine here
I have nothing better to do. Everyones asleep. which is normal. and im still waiting. Im still waiting. to go to college. to feel normal again. to be happy again. how much longer do i have to wait.
I scare myself when I think about how good I am at making people around me think im happy. or sane...
Today i was driving and i thought...what about if i let go...just let go and close my eyes...if he's "still with me" would he grab the wheel. would he stear me to saftey..i thought that. i sit up in bed..in complete darkness in the middle of the night. and i think: if i just concetrate a little bit harder..if i just sit here and close my eyes and listen with my whole entire heart and body and soul..would i be able to hear him..will i able to say anything to him...no..i couldnt..so i lay back down..and wait for sleep to come which never does...or easily at least. THIS IS NOT ME...but it is. I am seriously losing my mind. Im sick of sleeping on wet pillows..Im sick of being angry at EVERYTHING but i am i am sooooo soo soo mad. and no one even knows. saturday is going to come and go and no one is even going to know...a year ago that day is the a year ago when i lost everything. EVERYTHING. everything alli want to do is write everything until i can just come even close to showing how it feels. to make you understand what i lost. because it was everything. I cant just go back to college. how can i go back when the only college i know was with him. I get sick to my stomach when i think about going. i say i cant because i have to be with people who know me..and know what im going through but they dont. they have no idea. and its only because just by looking you would think im just the same old me. same old freaking prom queen me..never a care in the the world. just as long as everyone around me has a smile on thier face. If i could change places with him i would cause theres no reason for me to be here anymore and i will never amount to anything even close to what he would.


when i cry i hold my breath for as long as i can and everytime i have to inhale it hurts because it means im still here.

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:: 2004 22 January :: 2.11 pm

boredom that led to sadness
2003 Favorites
Movie?:i dont have many favorites
Album?: The Mars Volta~De-Loused In The Comatorium
Season?:Summer
Song?:Evanessance~My Immortal
Event?:
Celebrity?:ehhhh
Day?:none
Month?:
2003 Events--- which changed your life?
For the better?:moving out
For the worse?:going to college
For the better?:realizing how much i need my family
For the worse?:realizing that its too late to to feel close to my extended family
For the better?:working at Mongolian BBQ
For the worse?:losing my brother
Has made you a better person?:i havent become a better person this year
Has made you learn so much about yourself?:going to college
Has made you actually want to die?:everyday after 2/7/03
Has made you feel so alone and afraid?:its obvious
Has made you want to die with happiness?:nothing. havent had a very happy year
Still on 2003 events... Which one----
Have you learned the most from?:
Will you always remember?:nick
Will you tell your children about?:nick
Are you trying to forget?:nothing
Are you laughing at yourself for?:too much
Makes you sad when thinking about it?:blah
Causes you the most pain?:the last time i talked to him.. he said something right before i hung up..and i didnt hear what it was and i wont ever know
Brings tears (of joy) to your eyes?:nothing
2004--- It's already here!
Can you actually believe that it's 2004?:NO
Are you going to be writing 2003 on all your checks and papers?:its already been done
How did you celebrate?:wine in red frosty mugs with corissa and jen
Were there fireworks?:nope
Did you actually make resolutions?:absolutly not
Did you, or are you going to stick with them?:nope
How long do you usually?:never normally make them
What time did you fall sleep on New Years (night/morning)?:uhhh really late i think...like 5 or something
More 2003
What was the most important thing that happened to you in 2003?:i hate this survey
Are you going to remember that forever?:yes
Will you tell your children about it?:yes
Was it fun, happy, and beautiful or dark, painful, and terrible?:hmmm. the worst pain ive ever felt in my life times 100
Do you believe in wishes?:? yeah..what about them
Wishes
Did you wish on a shooting star in 2003?:probably
Did your wish come true?:nope. it cant
Did you throw pennies into a fountain?:nope
Did your wish come true?:nope
Would you tell me what you wished for? If so, what?:that i could take places with Nick
Do you always wish to be happier?:not always just now
Do you wish on someone you love?:do i wish on them?
Do you believe that they will come true some day?:no

2003 Reflections brought to you by BZOINK!

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:: 2004 22 January :: 2.11 pm

boredom that led to sadness
2003 Favorites
Movie?:i dont have many favorites
Album?: The Mars Volta~De-Loused In The Comatorium
Season?:Summer
Song?:Evanessance~My Immortal
Event?:
Celebrity?:ehhhh
Day?:none
Month?:
2003 Events--- which changed your life?
For the better?:moving out
For the worse?:going to college
For the better?:realizing how much i need my family
For the worse?:realizing that its too late to to feel close to my extended family
For the better?:working at Mongolian BBQ
For the worse?:losing my brother
Has made you a better person?:i havent become a better person this year
Has made you learn so much about yourself?:going to college
Has made you actually want to die?:everyday after 2/7/03
Has made you feel so alone and afraid?:its obvious
Has made you want to die with happiness?:nothing. havent had a very happy year
Still on 2003 events... Which one----
Have you learned the most from?:
Will you always remember?:nick
Will you tell your children about?:nick
Are you trying to forget?:nothing
Are you laughing at yourself for?:too much
Makes you sad when thinking about it?:blah
Causes you the most pain?:the last time i talked to him.. he said something right before i hung up..and i didnt hear what it was and i wont ever know
Brings tears (of joy) to your eyes?:nothing
2004--- It's already here!
Can you actually believe that it's 2004?:NO
Are you going to be writing 2003 on all your checks and papers?:its already been done
How did you celebrate?:wine in red frosty mugs with corissa and jen
Were there fireworks?:nope
Did you actually make resolutions?:absolutly not
Did you, or are you going to stick with them?:nope
How long do you usually?:never normally make them
What time did you fall sleep on New Years (night/morning)?:uhhh really late i think...like 5 or something
More 2003
What was the most important thing that happened to you in 2003?:i hate this survey
Are you going to remember that forever?:yes
Will you tell your children about it?:yes
Was it fun, happy, and beautiful or dark, painful, and terrible?:hmmm. the worst pain ive ever felt in my life times 100
Do you believe in wishes?:? yeah..what about them
Wishes
Did you wish on a shooting star in 2003?:probably
Did your wish come true?:nope. it cant
Did you throw pennies into a fountain?:nope
Did your wish come true?:nope
Would you tell me what you wished for? If so, what?:that i could take places with Nick
Do you always wish to be happier?:not always just now
Do you wish on someone you love?:do i wish on them?
Do you believe that they will come true some day?:no

2003 Reflections brought to you by BZOINK!

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:: 2004 22 January :: 12.37 am
:: Mood: weird
:: Music: asthma commerical on TV

not a normal journal entry
Its almost been a year. No one will remember, no one will care. All i want is for everyone to be sad with me for one day. just REMEMBER and be really fucking sad...just to feel an inch of what i feel everyday. Its exactly what i feel and how if felt and it just feels good to see it in writting instead of saying it over and over in my head...thats all

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:: 2003 2 November :: 9.48 pm
:: Mood: tired
:: Music: the neverending rain outside

i just thought its been about time
Since last time....
Hmm ive moved out. I live with some freinds in a townhouse in grand rapids..So far soo good for the most part. It turned out not to be so much of a big step seeing as how we all basically had no parents telling us what to do even when we did live at home so theres not a big difference...that and the majority of us have gone away to college for at least sooome time ...but yeah. other than that..

I work. ALOT. and its depressing when you work everyday and see nothing out of it. i never saw myself as a waitress i cant belive i've stuck with it as long as i have...now it seems weird to thin there is life after mongolian BBQ....i think everyone else that works there has forgotten too...

God, how did my life turn out this way..Im one of those ppl I couldnt stand when I was younger, well not totally i dont go back to HS football games every friday but still....never me i thought when i was still in school...i wouldbe out somewhere doing something on my own.....and doing it all by myself...somewhere in Chicago probably is where i saw myself...

And now where am i...its like im having a midlife crisis and if i die when im 40 then i guess i am....its not like i planned for what happened to happen i just cant belive how its affected the way i live EVERY SINGLE DAY. i just want to be happy again. which is so freaking ironic when i have ppl at work asking "are you EVER in a bad mood" or "do you EVER get mad" o my gosh there's days when i dont even want or i actually dont even get out of bed....but in all honestly thing about it...your at a resturant or your at work..and someone asks you..hi, how are you doing. what do you say? "o good, how are you, "right? RIGHT.....they dont really want to know. do they really want me to say..not too great. ive been depressed for the past 6 months and yesterday i didnt get out of bed because my brother died in februray and i dont know how to live without him....the truth is I dont say Good anymore...no one in my family does and thats about as good to telling ppl my raw emotions as i will ever get....but its rediculious how much it hurts to have ppl asking how i can be so happy all the time because they will never know the pain i feel ever day...

And here i am..just the type of person i couldnt stay before it all...o woe is me..im depressed waaaa waa waa...but i cant help it. im not happy as as much as i fake it im not..if i could take a pill and be happy i would but i cant so right now im just living......not LIVING. like when you think about just being free and spontaneous...like living as in when my body is supposed to bend and breath..and my heart is supposed to beat it does...and thats it..the end. God when is this going to get better

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:: 2003 10 June :: 11.14 pm
:: Mood: content
:: Music: behind the music-ozzy

crest white strips are the devil
I jus thad the best conversation in my entire life. My dad came..i waited all day. we went to burger king and talked. and he actually listened this time..we starting talking about some harder stuff so we decided to go outside..and i really told him everything. how i didnt feel close to him growing up but that now i do...and howi felt about my mom and why i dont date anyone and why i always have to be in control because of all that...it was really amazing..the best. really the best conversation ever...it wasnt happy it wasnt sad it wasnt deep. it was just. amazing in every sense of the word. my dad told me about how he is self conciouses...about how he felt about the faliure of his and my moms marriage..i mean man...its all i could ever ask for right now...just to tell someone im sad..and that i cry..and they know. they know what im feeling and they wont tell me to pertend to be happy or that i will get over it..we wont get over it..but some day we will smile again. and it wont be fake

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:: 2003 9 June :: 12.05 am
:: Music: sappy crappy

basically the same as the music
yeah that whole not crying thing last time? well it seems ive done enough crying in this past week to last a lifetime...

I totally made myself a cage..

growing up i never talked about being sad..or hurt or basiaclly associated any feeling with myself other than happiness. which was all fine growing up..made alot of freinds.

.but what happends when you start being rally unahappy..and your think..hey screw it i dont want to deal with this alone(which is a hueg step to begin with) and then yo say to your freinds...yeah i had a really bad day today/yesterday/all week..ive been really emotional..and they change the subject..what the hell is that?

Do i not have the right to be sad...do i not have the right to actually let it be known. i mean i thought that is what part of freindships were all about. yes i cry. and lately ive been doing it alot. and you know what im not ashamed of it either..i just had the odd asumption of thinking that my freinds would stick by me whether or not i was the freaky happy chipper katy i normally am. you know what. im not happy all the time..and in all honesty..and thisis just something im begining to realize about myself. im not that nice either.

I am the kinda person that can admit things about themselves that norma ppl dotn want to. you know what. i am a bitter person. i admit it. doesnt make me bad..you know what else..i talk about my freind sbehind thier backs...not all of them. but in all honesty i have some "freinds" that just use me and i can bend over and kiss thier asses one hundred times over and it wont change the fact that theyre still not good freinds back to me. so i say screw them as well.

so yeah its scarey to reaslize that the psron you always thought you were....your not. hey i lost my niceness..i guess that just happends when ppl treat me lbad one too many times...still doenst change the fact that i cant tell ppl when i cry...it just means that i am now a mean person...that cant tell anyone that she cries..


SO I CRIED IN MEIJERS 2 WEEKS AGO...yeah i did. sat on a swing and talked with my freind for about 20 minuts. started talking about sad stuff...and got sad..i said to myself i will not cry in meijers..and of course the fact that i was trying not to made me do it..what does my freind say? stop your going to myake me cry...OOOO FORGIVE ME. forgive me for making you cry over something that has nothing to freaking do with you. WOW.



i have way too much animostiy towards everything right now

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:: 2003 26 May :: 11.53 pm
:: Mood: tired
:: Music: letterman on tv

sleepy eyes
So i feel like im working all the time. i was so excited to only be worjking in the evening the next couple of days but noooooo. i had to go and be too nice and take another shift tomorrow morning at nine. so that means i have to work from nine to about nine thirty..eww. i dont even care about the money..its all about not being able to say no i suppose. Sometimes..like tongiht while im wiping down menus for basically an hour and i hace the time to let my mind wander. i start to think about Nick..which i think iswhy i havent been so sad or cried lately..not really b/c im over it..but because i rearely have time to even think about it..at least thats the way it seems. times come where i totally forget about it..like it seems like a dream..that didnt happen to me i think...and then i remember that yes it did.

I ran into some ppl that went to school with me...they graduated a few years before me..of course they came up to me pry out of drunkness. but still thier comments like im really sorry about your vbrother or which every way the chose to slur it. really hit hard...it just all comes crashing back and i just think of all that we lost in the world when he died. he really was so amazing..yeah i just hate it when i get all teary eyed at work...cant let ppl know i actually get sad sometimes. lol cause that would just totally ruin everyones perceptin of me it seems

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:: 2003 22 May :: 2.15 pm
:: Mood: determined
:: Music: uhh lawn mowers outside

my foots asleep
So i did it. and im gonna keep on doing it...keep on keeping..or however the song goes. the life isnt better. but at least i go outside now. nothing like living for a paycheck. bah

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:: 2003 15 April :: 5.47 pm
:: Music: tv

o yeah
and i forgot. i listened to Dustins Cd yesterday..IM suprised to actually like a few of the songs. like..alot. so thats cool. i mean i knew that those guys were talented..but its pretty cool to see they have such a following..I was reading around in this thing going BSC? who is that? lol i was thinking Broken Sunday...something with a C..lol speaking of whihc i saw the drummer of that band last week at jenison at my performance..pretty cool..but anyways and then i put 2 and 2 together...yeah. it just takes some time. haha. but like i said its nice that this is actually workin gout for him..i remembered when he couldnt even play anything on his guitar and BOb would tease him..whos eating his words now? :) well anyways. im getting ready for olivet..o yeh and i went back to my old high school today..weeird. everythings differnt. lots of the same ppl. it was nice to see some of the old staff again. how sad is it that i want to go back to my high school? grr o well at least im getting in some colelge apps now...talk about having a scattered brain today..sheesh. i'll write later

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:: 2003 15 April :: 11.45 am
:: Mood: accomplished
:: Music: stupid freakin toot toot beep beep song on the radio

ive got sunshine....
Alright so..yesterday was a not so good day. but the weather is awesome today and i have to figure out a reason to get out of the house. Im going to olivet tonight with melissa to visit staci...which shoul dbe interesting..i cant belive shes in a sorority but then again out of any of my freinds i suppose shes the most fitting to the stereotype..hmm i wonder if we have to hang out with those girls tonight..(things that make you go hmmmm). well anyways, im filling out some college aps. today. i did 2 yesterday Grand Valley and Adrian. im doing Calvin right now..it sucks how i dont really want to go to anywhere but the ones that are most appealing are in the 20 grand+ level...grr. Im considereing applying to Western again too i dont know the campus was pretty wheni went like 2 weeks ago..but im just not sure..i think it will be just like Central..Its funny how im just applying to everywhere i got into last year..haha i wish i could just call them up and be like..hey ive only done one semester of college since your records and i did bad so....uhh let me in anyways..or something like that.. yeah. thats it for now, i think

time to go pry into other ppl that i dont knows buisness ..isnt that what this is here for?:)

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:: 2003 8 April :: 1.09 pm
:: Mood: blah
:: Music: Norah Jones

ehh
Im bored..soo bored. although it seems like there should be things i should be doing(other than the freaking list of chores my mom left this morning for me to do..chhoorrees? wow. does she think im on summer break from middle school or something?) I cant stay here much longer. i am seriously losing myself..should i study abroad? i dont even know if any schools around here are even accepting applications still..i reallllly dont want to go to GRCC..i will HAVE to get an apartment if that happends...but does it make sense to go away to a school i dont really like just for the fact that i will be away at college again?
Like i said..im just. so lost. im not the same as before. i dont know if thats even a good or bad thing. im ready to just give up on most of the old freinds i had. i know its not the best thing to do.i know that i need them. even if i give 110% to them and they give me 10% but at the same time im just ready to give up on all that...not because im super confident that i can go out there in the world and make this great awesome new group of freinds that are more like me and that i can travel and do all the crazy things that ive wanted to do in my head for forever but never had the ppl around me to do them with...thats not the case..b/c when have i ever been the kind of person that could just go out there and meet those "awesome ppl" i mean..wouldnt i have already done that if that were the case...i just wonder about myself..yeah i was "popular" in High School yeah i had alot of friends..i mean it wasnt important to me..i defiantly never tried for any of that. but i onder about myself..how did all that happen if really..deep down inside..i didnt come out of HS with many good freinds or even a total sense of myself...I know that what has happened has affected my judgement of myself..and i know its never going to go back. but i have NEVER been so stuck in my entire life..and i hate it

what you think?


:: 2003 24 March :: 11.05 am
:: Mood: blah
:: Music: India.Arie

back again
Sooo...I cant belive im actually going to start writting in this thing again, but i havent been able to get the courage to write in my journal again. I guess im just afriad of what i might write..or maybe about writting how i really feel and then having to see it every time i open my journal afterwards.
My life is just kinda in a lul right now. I dont know what i should be doing and its scarey to not have any model to look up to anymore. I never really thought of myself as a follower in any way..but I know i was in that aspect.
I went to Central to be with him. i know that now. And I also know that i cant go back there, everytime i drive up there I cry. everytime im there i cant stop thinking about the times he was in my dorm or the times i went to visit his..when i made him cupcakes for his birthday..i went in his room for the first time a week ago..he still had my birthday card that i made for him. i cant believe he kept it. He has a picture of me in a folder that he took this summer in Maine...theres so many things i wish i could talk to him about..what am i supposed to do now? I dont want to have to figure things out for myself..i keep finding myself trying to be him...in my head im thinking Nick would be doing this..he would be doing or saying something really funny...when i talk to his freinds in my head im thinking..are they comparing me to him..are they dissapointed that Im not as funny or "cool" as him?
And i cant stand that my freinds saw me the way i was when it happened. i know its shallow or...i dont know stupid of my to feel that way..but i cant stand the fact that some of my freinds will remember the way i was..a few of my guy friends havent even talked to me since they saw me..in a way i wish i could have just went through it all alone, i know that it helped me when a few of my freinds were there..but God i really lost it a few times, and i hate it that they saw me that way.
I dont know..i really dont. in my head i think.. i just want to give up on things..go into depression..start drinking..isnt that sad? its not me and i know that..its why i havent done either of those things..but at the same time..im not doing ANYTHING..not out of laziness..just the fact that i dont know what to do, or how to do it, or how to i dont even know...its not something I will ever get over or get through..I hate it when ppl say that..how can you say something that is what i dont get..how can you say i will "get over" the fact that i loved someone..more than i have ever loved anyone..he was the person that knew how i felt..that knew what had happened in our past..I know that we grew apart..but God he was the only one that really knew..and now hes not here and he wont ever come back..and the fact that ppl say i will get over that or get through that just makes me so angry. i know that its an awkward situation and that they dont know what to say..i know that. but i cant help the way i feel and i stopeed trying to control them a long time ago. Ok *deep breath* i can tell i havent written anything in awhile..i guess it feels pretty good to do..theres so many things that i want to tell ppl but i know the only reason i want to tell is so they can share my anger and thats not fair...but hey no one knows me here so here we go...Im so angry..i found out last week that Nicks ex was dating one of his very good freinds..and they were hiding it from him..but he found out about it the day before he left and he confronted her freind..now i guess this guy is telling ppl that nick hated him..and although i wouldnt blame him..his 2 best freinds say that he told them what he said and that it had nothing to do with him hating the other guy..and how fair is that? Nick cant defend himself..I guess i just have to trust that the ppl that really knew him would know that Nick would never say that..and what kills me is that his ex invited me over to her apartment the week before i came home from school..i thought she was trying to help me...you know get back into the swing of things..but she had this guy over...and i had no idea..i used to actually like this guy too..like REALLY liked him..he was ingaged or something..what ever happened to that huh? wow. i could keep writting and writting but its not worth it. maybe I'll write more later. blah

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