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:: 2023 12 January :: 3.52 pm

from Ari
AITA? My roommate and I have similar taste in hair accessories. As we are two women who have been living together for some years now, we share hair ties for convenience at this point. I find this to be an important bonding practice, and I know she does too. I have chosen a convenient, centrally located place to store our hair ties, or at least my share of them. I know my roommate accesses where I store them at least twice a day. However, she consistently moves the hair ties from my hair tie pile to arbitrary inferior, decentralized locations, including ones that are difficult for me to see, as she is much taller than me. AITA for continuing to hoard hair ties in our kitchen on the floor in my food bowl? I'm a cat if this is relevant

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:: 2018 3 December :: 2.50 pm

Health Class - Gifts from Trauma
https://www.psypost.org/2018/11/people-who-experience-traumatic-events-as-children-are-more-empathetic-as-adults-52640

In both surveys, adults who reported experiencing a traumatic event in childhood tended to have higher levels of empathy. Traumatic events included the death of a very close friend or family member, parental divorce or discord, traumatic sexual experiences such as molestation, and being subjected to violence.

“Readers of this study should take away that there are pathways to personal growth and resilience after experiencing a trauma,” Greenberg told PsyPost.

Childhood trauma was only associated with elevated levels of affective empathy. It was not linked to higher levels of cognitive empathy.


Trauma can bear gifts

Affective empathy - the ability respond to another person’s mental state with an appropriate emotion
Cognitive empathy - (also referred to as ‘mentalizing’) is the ability to understand another’s thoughts and feelings

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There are silver linings to trauma. There are skills learned and a deepness that's opened. Once healed, those attributes can support your life.

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:: 2018 3 December :: 2.46 pm

Health Class - What is Love
"We've been infected with this idea that love is an emotion only felt between two people. But love is universal. An energy. A contagious force. A gift. To offer money to a homeless man is to love. To save a worm from the sun is to love. To smile at a stranger is love. To be grateful, to be hopeful, to be brave, to be forgiving, to be proud, is to love." - a. r. lucas

Notes on how the West limits the concepts and displays of love. Understanding that loving each other is a core element of humanity and life.

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:: 2018 3 December :: 2.42 pm

Activist Tactics - Amazing Signs
https://www.facebook.com/IWWDerry/posts/759577304394261?__xts__[0]=68.ARCcPVgvEaUxSL6nvUZ2XECVFazXAvaYAADYG9nPIH48mlEN2_wVWKg7jHQl8RAHrOSQQqSwSfFv1dRqLuiEMLzBNHjT5ZXL46YYf7zN7Ac-QEv4u0N3oKDMwHQepoh3U6Vv3LuiDf07ogK8ufaykSM6tokxveqq5hUhj71aDiauEfEQDfBHnKKbEo9n6Gs8TblH5A0cbje_YHZrUaozCZp-G_5W6yNBmkFOq_crsbfdIRRDPf1fl7OOW-TLrSB19YSsuVdC8YyG-TfWeOscii3mtRVC8njL_8OePpf1_WnghvNEpZky_XtCs5rE25EHDRGHyoVdMhhNBY0BApXz_-TJ&__tn__=C-R

The enemy does not arrive by boat. He arrives by limousine.

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:: 2018 3 December :: 2.40 pm

Activist Tactic - Education
"If I'm wrong, educate me. Don't belittle me."

Responding as if someone is stupid for having an idea does not endear them to hear you out and change their mind. Asking why they hold said belief and understanding the core principles they hold that lead them to choose that outcome makes it easier to connect on a human level.

We say we want to treat them like humans, like all people are equal, but we dismiss them as if they are 2D errors. We must bring the humanity in to the situation.

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:: 2018 3 December :: 2.19 pm

Activist Tactics - Berlin on Nazism
https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2018/nov/14/marching-together-far-right-fascist-wir-fur-deutschland

Berliners have shown how to stop the march of the far right
Musa Okwonga

Something significant has just occurred in Berlin. The far-right group Wir für Deutschland (We for Germany), which has been marching in the capital since 2016, has just announced that it will no longer protest there. Explaining the decision in a frustration-filled statement on Facebook, Wir für Deutschland credited three factors in particular.

First, there was fatigue; it no longer wished to march round in circles, which had been a fitting metaphor for the spiraling hatred of their ethos. Second, there was discomfort: its members had grown tired of being screamed at by anti-fascists. Third, there was the nemesis whose compassion towards refugees had made them take to the streets in the first place. “[Chancellor Angela] Merkel has defeated us,” said Kay Hönicke and Enrico Stubbe, the organisers of the demonstrations. “We must accept that.” Their deflated tone suggests that, for now at least, hate is too much like hard work.

The demise of this organisation is notable for two reasons. The first is a reminder that citizens across the world, at a time when many may feel powerless, can still come together to make the atmosphere in their towns less toxic. It is frequently said that the majority of people are decent, but that decency is worth nothing if it remains silent. In this case, we have seen what happens when the majority chooses to speak up. Second, and most crucially, it disrupts the narrative that the rise of the far right is inevitable.

Yet Anetta Kahane, chairwoman of the Amadeu Antonio Foundation, warns against complacency. “We should start a campaign called ‘We are more, but not enough’,” she says. The challenges, particularly in rural areas, remain substantial – and so, while a presence on the streets is essential, it must be tied to long-term work in communities. In Dresden last week, Kahane’s foundation helped to host the 10th anniversary of Saxony’s civil society awards, to honour those who had done most to promote inclusivity in the region. There, as the audience celebrated the brave and unrelenting endeavours of local people, the golden rule of activism became clear: that every painstaking collective effort matters, no matter how minor or futile it may seem. If this rule is borne firmly in mind, then hatred and ignorance can be firmly marched back to the margins of society; and then onwards, into the past.

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1) fatigue
2) discomfort
3) support from the leader of the country

It is frequently said that the majority of people are decent, but that decency is worth nothing if it remains silent.

There, as the audience celebrated the brave and unrelenting endeavors of local people, the golden rule of activism became clear: that every painstaking collective effort matters, no matter how minor or futile it may seem. If this rule is borne firmly in mind, then hatred and ignorance can be firmly marched back to the margins of society; and then onwards, into the past.

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:: 2018 3 December :: 1.04 pm

Activist Tactics - asymmetric warfare
https://www.facebook.com/vellumandvinyl/photos/a.1027471067346304/1179391838820892/?type=3&theater

User 1: If you do want to go toe to toe with cops don't do it at the main protest in your area. Start shit across town and split the cop's resources. "Open a second front" so to speak and take some of the heat off of the people they have absolutely no qualms about harming. Split up and open up a third front, a fourth. Keep moving and keep /them/ moving.

User 2: Basically one of the main features of asymmetric warfare.

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